Wednesday, 22 January 2014


I was having a heart to heart with my friend the other day and we were discussing happiness and how we feel it can be achieved. A while ago I remember seeing a sole trader down the local shops in his shop every single day and night of the week. I thought to myself, ‘Bless him, he is literally an ant.’ And I pledged from that thought onwards that I would not be an ‘ant’ but I quickly came to the conclusion that fighting being an ant and fighting doing the norm can quickly make you just as unhappy as conforming to it totally. So, in this heart to heart my friend managed to put my thoughts into words when he said ‘You need a slight element of ‘antism’ in your life’ and it’s true, you should enjoy the normal, day to day things in life or you’ll just be fighting a losing battle and further isolating yourself from the world you live in.

The heart to heart led on to us discussing all those little things that help build ones all round happiness and I thought I would make a few of my own here on my blog for both myself and anyone reading this who can have a down day or week or even longer from time to time…

Firstly, I love a nice cup of tea and something tasty like a slice of Battenberg to go with it, I don’t do this as often as I used to but when I do, I really appreciate it! Recently, I just can’t stop giggling at silly little things that happen throughout my day and I spread the giggle by texting it to my friends or family members. This also applies to funny images me and my friends send one another – such a small trivia thing that really does cheer you up!

I absolutely love being stroked, argh, it’s amazing! It relaxes me more than anything else I’ve ever known and I feel like it’s good for my body, brain and soul… I guess you could say it’s my own little form of meditating! Well, I guess you could say that all these little things are my own little forms of meditating.

I’m not going to deny it, I adore rubbish TV (and lighthearted films), anything from TOWIE to Made in Chelsea to Eastenders to Gogglebox, Some people say it’s depressing, but I find it rather relaxing, it gives my brain a rest, allows it to relax and allows me to giggle at the silly little things that happen in them. Normal TV is something I won’t neglect from my life because, I honestly believe it allows me to relax and not over think for a while and while others may not enjoy that, I do. Also as weird as it sounds, I honestly enjoy mundane tasks, like stacking shelves or stuffing envelopes in an office, obviously I don’t spend my entire life doing these things, I’m not a complete air head, but I just feel like if you can switch your mind off and find an oasis for yourself by doing these things, then there would be no need for straining oneself to meditate if that’s just not for them, which it isn’t for me, but like I said in the paragraph above, these things are my way of meditating.

This morning I woke up with my beautiful doggy in my arms with my head pressed against his head… It was the nicest feeling ever; I really didn’t want to get up! The same goes for cuddles with human beings; seriously hugging is amazing for the soul!

Doing a small kind deed for someone else is another one of the little things I love. The other day I was walking to work and a man offered me the big issue and I said no, then changed my mind and went back and bought it, he was so happy and grateful and it truly made my day. When I initially walked past, I thought to myself ‘Hey, why should I be happy and not him?’ so I went back and bought it. I also feel that it is unfair to say ‘they’ll only spend it on a drink or fags’ …My attitude towards that is – so what? So, because I have had a better hand in life, I should be allowed to enjoy it and have a drink when I please yet someone in a worse position shouldn’t be entitled to those small luxuries that could make their day and cheer them up? Bullshit. I’ll help anyone who is trying to help themselves and that’s what I feel those selling the big issue are proving to the world. Anyway, I’ve gone off on a tangent but basically, doing a good deed for someone will not only make your day, but theirs too.

Giving and receiving compliments seriously make my life. I enjoy dishing them out more than I do receiving them to be honest and making someone feel happy and nice about themself is something I thoroughly enjoy!

There are a few more little things I adore like having a tidy bedroom, flowers (both being given them or just simply seeing them outside), finding a song you love so much you’ll repeat it over and over (at the moment mine is ‘look right through’ by Storm Queen), spontaneity (in myself & others), writing neat, feeling organized, yummy cocktails, sweet messages (either in cards or texts), good food, feeling healthy, ohhh and I love swimming, ahhhh swimming is so relaxing and positive for me, also I’ve found it’s my only form of curing a hangover! (ha) and my goodness there are so, so, so many more! 

Clearly surrounding yourself with people with whom you are comfortable and enjoy being around is the biggest part of finding happiness, but I'm talking about the small things here!

Right, I think I have gone on quite enough now but I feel like I have unlocked some kind of key to eternal happiness. Don’t try to fight the norms in life just because, you may be slightly different or weird to your average Joe, appreciate every little blessing and always remember, ‘it’s the little things in life that make life Big’ …and I will too. xxx


  1. What a worth post!!! You are a good writer! Well done :)
    Those people who are thankful for the little things they are really happy!

    Happy to find you here :)


  2. Awww thank you so much... your comment is another one of those little things that has made me very happy!!! =) x x x

    1. Thank you darling for all your kind comments:)

      Will folllow you will love and will wait for next your great post...



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